A Final Warning


A while ago I posted about why I have been absent due to the trouble I have been facing at my job; well it seems to have become even worse now.



Today while I was checking on the emails directed towards our store I noticed an email that had my name attached to it. I discovered that this email contained the result for the disciplinary hearing I attended two weeks ago (the one about a person stealing stuff from our store) and a final warning was attached to this email.



Like what the actual fuck? How the fuck am I responsible for a theft in the store? Heck, there is evidence I was working when the theft happened while my colleague (whose customer it was) just sat on her arse eating.



My first reaction was to simply just resign, but logic kicked in and told me that I needed this job. Work is scarce to find in a country that has an unemployment rate of nearly 30%. I then became and angry and decided to refuse to sign the fucking thing since I am not responsible for this whole situation; I just happened to be on duty the same day. But once again, logic kicked in and I decided to wait until Monday to sort this situation out because then I can get legal advice from the CCMA (The Commission for Conciliation, Mediation and Arbitration;  a South African government organization that provides help and legal assistance in labour related issues) and find out what is the best process to follow to fight this thing. Then the depression kicked in.



The thing is, I am really beginning to feel like a freaking loser.  I struggle to keep to a job for longer than a year because I always end up being hired for crappy jobs that only paid minimum wage. Heck, my brother has even made a joke where he told me I should help him job hunt because the moment I think something seems worthwhile then he would know to avoid it. I have basically gone through high school twice because the first time I ended up in a fake school that screwed me. I practically had no childhood due to abuse, poverty and alcoholism. My teenage years I became isolated because I simply struggled to relate with anyone and I pretty much carried on the trend by still having no friends or no girlfriends. I don’t know how to drive and I don’t have an asset to my name even though I am freaking 24. And let’s not forget that I still live with my parents.



I am so tired of fighting and working my arse off for nothing. Every time I try to build something up it ends up being demolished. I am tired of planning and have those plans completely destroyed. I am just so tired.



All I want to do is work some crappy office job where I work from nine to five; go home to  my crappy flat to sleep and then once a year go on a week long vacation that I saved up all year for. That is all I want in life. I just want an ordinary crappy life and maybe do something that would make the people that I care about feel proud. That is it. Nothing more.



I think I am just going to give up trying now. I am done with fighting. I am done with working hard to only be screwed. Maybe the best thing for my family is for me to end it, I would no longer be a disappointment; perhaps a pathetically sad memory is all I can hope for.







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Comments (5)


    The best thing is to continue to fight for the life you want. Surrender is not an option. Life isn’t fair. It wasn’t meant to be. By now you realize that. So change you. That doesn’t require a job. You have internet so you have a resource to help you with tips on how to be more: friendly, out going, and appealing to women and men. Remember, a goal isn’t the end all. You need to brainstorm the steps to reaching each particular goal. Only you know what you really want in life, and want to get out of life. Knowledge is power, so education and or training is key. Look for mentors and roll models. Never give up on yourself.

    June 03, 2017
    1. jaageet

      How are you doing coping with life yourself?

      June 04, 2017
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  2. JustALier

    What is happening to you is unfair, but don’t let it bring you down. On the positive you have a job in a country with a 30% unemployment rate. Shitty job – yes, but trust me even the office 9-5 job will seem shitty once you’re there. Another positive – you’re 24. ONLY 24. You think many 24 year olds don’t still live with their parents? I have a friend who didn’t move out till he was 32. Friends are overrated, you have us here at thoughts, we count! And lastly, ending it won’t give your family a chance at a better life. You think one day your brother will wake up and think “Thank god Xander killed himself, he was such a drag” No one is “better off” after a suicide in the family.

    No one has a perfect life, a perfect job, a perfect girlfriend and if someone tells you that they do, they are big fat mutherfucking liar. We all have our frustrations but good things do happen, and they will happen to you.

    June 04, 2017
  3. scarletts_letters

    You can’t blame yourself for what aresholes are like, and a lot of bosses are arseholes, not all but a lot. Often people think they need to intimidate and threaten their staff so they perform for them, this will be the same thing.
    Hang in there mate x

    June 14, 2017
  4. roe

    There is hope!
    Sounds like you’ve lost yours
    Please…Just hang on!
    It’s not easy! injust wrote a blog but haven’t posted it yet called “hope is everything!”
    I can totally relate, not to your particular circumstances but to the feelings you have endured.
    I hope you read it!
    I’ll keep you in my prayers

    July 08, 2017